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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

How to Gain Confidence -Tips and Techniques






How to Gain Confidence

Smile and laugh

Smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous. Smile when you are introduced yourself to others. Some experts says don’t keep a smile plastered on your face because you’ll seem insincere.

Have eye contact, but don’t stare

The eyes are the mirror of the soul”, and they are. The easiest way of showing what you are feeling or to see what another is feeling is the facial expression. Our emotions can be read first from our facial expressions. Eyes can captivate an audience and express what words may not be able to deliver. A word is a word, but a word expressed upon the sincerity of the eyes will allow the words spoken to reach the minds of those they are spoken to. This is why eye contact is important.

Manage some space

Manage & create some space with others. Do not too close or too far from your concern person. Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own coat.

Relax your shoulders

Relax your shoulders when you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax.

Good attitude

Last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and will make a major difference.

Nod when they are talking

Nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don’t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker. It creates an image that you are listening to him/ her.

Lean, but not too much

If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you are full confident in yourself and relaxed lean back. But don’t lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.

Slow down your walk speed

It indicates so many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed.

Do not cross your arms or legs

You have already heard you should not cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or defended. It is also apply for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open and remain relax until the end. Cross legs and arms is a sing of uncomfortable.  The crossed-leg position is generally a supportive gesture that occurs with other negative gestures and case should be taken not to interpret this gesture in isolation or out of context. For instance when the crossed-leg gesture is combined with crossed arms the person is clearly showing displeasure with the situation or conversation.

Don’t touch your Face

It might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation. Touching face again and again is a bad thing avoid it when you are in peoples or in meeting.

Drop your negative friends

Leave your friends who have negative attitude it means you have to avoid from them do not tell them what you are going to do.

Keep you head up

Don’t keep your eyes on the ground; it might make you seem insecure. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon. Make eye contact with that person.

Don’t fidgety

Try to avoid phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table. You’ll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across. Try to relax, slow down and focus your movements.

Use your hands more confidently

Instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. Use them with some control.

Hold your drink

Don’t hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don’t hold anything in front of your heart, it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.

Realize where you spine ends

Many peoples might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore keep your whole spine straight and aligned for better posture.

Proactive Mirroring

When you get a good connection with someone, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person’s body language. To make the connection better you can try proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward. If she holds her hands on her thighs, you might do the same. But don’t react instantly and don’t mirror every change in body language. Then weirdness will ensue.

Don’t expect to be perfect

Do not try to be perfect. It means do not try to show that you know each and every thing very well. It will create a negative impact on others.

Compare yourself against yourself

Do not compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with others mean you are devaluing yourself. Compare yourself with yourself, with you power, with your strengths, and what you are? What you can do for yourself?

There is no need for you to put yourself down

Be strong, no need to put down yourself in all your decisions. Be confident this is good for me and I can make it good and most important be respected.

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Sunday, September 11, 2011

India Today 9/11 archive: Sixty Minutes Of Hell

India Today’s cover story of September 24, 2001 tries to put the facts and consequences of the worst ever attack on America in perspective before the hubris settled. It concludes that the myth of fortress America had been demolished and a new challenge lay before the only superpower.

Kabir Rekhi was lighting a cigarette. Standing outside his office on Broad Street, just off Wall Street in New York, this India-born Ernst & Young executive had stepped out with his boss just before 9 a.m. on a perfectly everyday Tuesday morning. As the two took their first puffs, one of the towers of the World Trade Center-hosting 155 businesses and 50,000 people-erupted. Rekhi thought it was a bomb. His boss, who had witnessed the 1993 WTC bomb attack, was remarkably unruffled: "It's a terrorist attack."

They began to walk back when they heard the second blast. This time it was the South Tower that was on fire. A second plane had struck and Rekhi was beginning to panic. His wife Gunjan would be at the train station below the WTC, he realised, changing trains on her way from their home to her office in Upper Manhattan. The train's departure had already been aborted but Rekhi did not know that. He ran towards the towering inferno looking for his wife amid a confused, chaotic and terrified mass. He was stuck in the WTC complex when the South Tower began to crumble some 45 minutes later. He began to run, part of a concourse of humanity rushing away from the crashing steel, concrete and balls of fire. "I saw somebody jump from God knows which floor. Bodies were flying like pinballs." Today, at home with his wife, Rekhi can't believe he got away without a scratch. Gunjan calls it a miracle. The Rekhis will never forget the day. Neither will New York. Nor America.

In a land devoted to trivia and statistics, the most singular reflection of terror appeared on the most unlikely mirror. On September 11, 2001, the day four hijacked aircraft shattered what a newspaper called the nation's "feeling of invincibility", the US was forced to cancel every Major League baseball game. The last time this happened was on June 6, 1944, the day of the Normandy landings in World War II. It revived memories of why the US had gone to war at all. The destruction of WTC was "this generation's Pearl Harbour". But whereas the surprise Japanese attack on the US naval base on December 7, 1941 claimed 2,390 lives, the casualties from September 11 may well cross 10,000.

The assault (see graphic) was as horrific as it was audacious: four commercial aircraft were hijacked and turned into airborne bombs, carrying a full load of aviation fuel-the two Boeing 767s headed for New York carried 90,770 litres and two Boeing 757s 42,680 litres-and deliberately crashed into the heart of the American financial and military establishment.

Across America, the reaction was swift. In city after city, the downtown areas were cleared out. The 110-storeyed Sears Tower in Chicago was evacuated as a precautionary measure. Schools ended early, people drove home. They were distraught, searching for answers. Simmering deep within was a rage for revenge. The VOX pops on radio stations and TV channels were seething. Some wanted to enlist or re-enlist in the Marines. "We need to go to war and eradicate these terrorists," said one radio interviewee. A World War II veteran captured the popular mood, "As I see the smoke and dust, I'm glad the Statue of Liberty is still standing." The most crippling moment for a country that cherishes its civil liberty came the day after. On September 12, armoured cars and soldiers with assault rifles patrolled Manhattan, an image without parallel. It could happen elsewhere, in Africa and Asia or even in Paris in 1968. Like Jean-Paul Sartre, Americans had long believed hell was other people. No longer.

The Americans want vengeance. President Bush called it a "quiet, unyielding anger" in his broadcast to the people on the evening of the first invasion of mainland America since the war with the British in 1812. Senator Orrin Hatch put it more bluntly, "We're going after the bastards." Who were the bastards? As the FBI and police swooped down on Westin Hotel in Boston, an Amtrack train-stopped and searched near Boston-and a flight training school near Daytona Beach, Florida, the biggest manhunt in American memory, involving 7,000 law enforcement officials, was under way.

Each plane, it emerged, had between four and five hijackers. At least one on each aircraft was a pilot trained in the US. Aviation officials guessed they may have disabled the transponders, which would have nullified the air traffic control's ability to pinpoint the planes' location, and may explain why they flew into the heart of Manhattan undetected. The fear is the hijackers may have similarly neutralised the cockpit voice recorders (black boxes), erasing their ability to record the final minutes of conversation.

Early clues included cell-phone intercepts from one of the hijacked planes that had a pirate talking to the Osama bin Laden group. In 1993, when the US embassies in Africa were attacked, an identical clue had given the FBI its first lead on the omen called Osama-the Afghanistan-based Saudi billionaire who is America's biggest enemy.

Outside Logan airport in Boston, an abandoned car was found with flying manuals written in Arabic and a "ramp pass" giving the holder access to restricted areas of the airport. The police identified two former students of a flying school in Venice, Florida, Amanullah Atta Mohammed and Marwan Alshehhi, as two of the hijackers who had come from Germany to the US in June 2000. Other flying schools were investigated and less than 48 hours after the first attack, almost all the hijackers were identified from passenger manifests.Two weeks earlier, American Airlines had been warned to watch out for "imposter pilots" after some flight badges and uniforms were stolen from a hotel in Rome.

There were horrors and happenings, sights and smells beyond America's wildest nightmares. The federal government closed its 8,300 offices across the country. The White House was evacuated. President Bush, addressing school children in Florida when he received the news, flew to an air-force base in Omaha, Nebraska, and in an underground bunker convened a National Security Council meeting. If this wasn't a war council, the term needed to be redefined.

It may as well as have been Independence Day or Amerika, just another disaster fantasy about the bad guys pounding Uncle Sam. The acrid stench of death replaced the hectic trading of Wall Street. The world's best known stock exchange began a prolonged shutdown, destined to contravene a convention that the US stock markets must never close for four days in a week. As fighter planes flew over cities to safeguard the skies, commercial flights were halted. Of some 6,000 flights, many were diverted to Canada or grounded in Europe. As General Norman Schwarzkorpf, the warrior hero who led the Allied forces to victory in the 1991 Gulf War, put it, "Terrorism has come to our shores big time." Protected by the Pacific and the Atlantic, the early Americans thought of their mini-continent as a natural fortress, impregnable. America would never say never again.

The American psyche is shaped by enormous quantities of nervous energy. This is a society that cannot sit still. In New York, fire-fighters, policemen, medical staff and ordinary citizens waged a heroic battle against the rubble. There were chilling stories of people jumping from the 99th floor to their deaths, running down 50 floors to safety, being pulled out from under tonnes of debris. The biggest puzzle was the flight that crashed near Pittsburgh. Why did it miss its target? At least two passengers from this plane called their families just before the crash. Both spoke of hijackers and one, who had locked himself in the toilet, told his wife "we're going to die anyway, we better do something". The prevailing wisdom is that a struggle of some sort ensued-and the passengers grappled with the hijackers to crash the plane at a desolate location rather than on the targeted White House. In an America starved of good news, it is a story on everybody's lips.

There were other immediate issues to come to grips within a country that has never faced national emergency on such a scale. There was the profiteering. The gas stations (petrol pumps) in Nebraska and California were the first to arbitrarily hike prices by 25 cents a gallon, a 20 per cent jump apparently impelled by fears that the terrorist strikes would cause a conflict in the Middle East and trigger another oil crisis.

Elsewhere, there were impromptu church services in memory of the dead. As the first appeals for blood were issued, the response was overwhelming. A people unused to being made to wait lined up silently to donate blood. Robin Graham, a hotel executive, waited four hours to respond to her country's call. Why? "I felt I had to do something. I couldn't just sit there." So was this Pearl Harbour? "No, this is not war, just a group of terrorists." Would she support retaliation? "Yes, yes, yes."

The truth will emerge. The culprits will be identified. Osama bin Laden will be punished. Yet, in some ways, the more fundamental issue is what does September 11 mean for America? This has been a land of lax security. Airports are notoriously porous, frisking is unheard of, knives are permitted if they "look okay" to the official on duty-the hijackers were armed with knives and cardboard cutters-and baggage checks are desultory. All this will now change. The media is already talking of sky marshals.

The other big issue is intelligence failure. The US apparently spends a total of $25 billion (Rs 11,75 00 crore) on its intelligence agencies. How efficient are they? Paul Bremer, who chaired the National Commission on Terrorism, was unequivocal. The CIA, he said, was hamstrung because it was not allowed to recruit "unsavoury characters, terrorists or criminals" as informers. Without a carte blanche it couldn't penetrate terrorist rings. Bremer called for a return to "old-fashioned spying" to complement technical espionage facilities. The policy of "assassination"-killing specific foreigners seen as a threat to US security-may be given a new life. It was outlawed by President Gerald Ford in the 1970s. Politically, this crisis could, paradoxically, stabilise Bush's rocky presidency. His inexperience, alienation of European allies and uncertainty with the economy, have made his early months in office anything but a honeymoon. Now he has the entire country rallying round him, Democrat and Republican. His demand for a $19 billion (Rs 89,300 crore) increase in the defence budget seems set to sail through. In the end, Sinister September represents Bush's supreme test. This is his moment of truth. Bush is very much his father's son but models his presidency not on father Bush, rather on that of Ronald Reagan. He has to emulate Reagan's annihilation of Libya in the light of a similar terrorist outrage in 1980s. He has to calm a distraught nation much like a grandfatherly Reagan did through the troubled 1980s. Fate has dealt America a blow but freed its supreme commander of domestic fetters. Bush is now supreme. He has to prove he can truly command.

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America honours 9/11 victims with solemn ceremonies

President Barack Obama walks past a reflecting pool near the bronze-etched names of the victims of the terrorist attack 10 years ago with his wife Michelle, and former President George W Bush and his wife, Laura


The solemn ceremony at the site of the World Trade Centre came amid a heavy security presence permeating the area in lower Manhattan, as authorities continued their search for possible plotters of another terrorist strike.
At the ceremony, Obama and the first lady stood behind bullet-proof protection. Former President George W. Bush, who was president at the time, read a letter sent by Abraham Lincoln to a woman who lost five sons in the Civil War.


Those who lost loved ones in the attacks stepped forward to read out their names. 



The city observed another moment of silence at 9.03 a.m., when United Airlines Flight 175 struck the South Tower. 


More than 200 miles away in Washington, mourners observed a moment of silence at 9.37 a.m. -- the moment American Airlines Flight 77 struck the Pentagon and killed 184 people.


People paid their respects for their loved ones, who were lost during the attack ten years ago, during the National September 11 Memorial to mark the 10th anniversary of the attacks.


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Live Video: World Trade Center collapse

9/11 September 11 2001 World Trade Center collapse footage

 


9/11 RARE FOOTAGE 2ND PLANE HITTING


Live TV Footage/Coverage of 9/11 (Second Plane hit, Collapse of Towers) World Trade Center




9/11 September 11 2001 World Trade Center collapse footage


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9/11: Then and Now

(Left) A jet airliner is lined up on one of the World Trade Center towers in New York. (Right) A fireball explodes from one of the World Trade Center towers after a jet airliner crashed into the building in New York. AP Photo/Carmen Taylor.


(Left) New Yorkers walk over the Brooklyn Bridge on their way to work, April 7, 1980, during the transit strike. (Right) People flee the scene of the attacks on the World Trade center on September 11, 2001. AP Photo/Carlos Rene Perez (left), Mark Lennihan (right).


(Left) The Brooklyn Bridge is seen spanning over New York's East River, with the twin towers of the World Trade Center in the background, June 12, 1990. (Right) Smoke rises behind the Brooklyn Bridge over the East River, and frames the skyline of Manhattan, minus the World Trade towers, the day after hijacked airplanes crashed into both buildings causing their collapse. AP Photo/Marty Lederhandler (left), Kathy Willens (right).




(Left) Daniel Goodwin ("Spider Man") climbs the sheer face of the North Tower of the World Trade Center in Manhattan, New York City on May 30, 1983. (Right) Smoke pours out of the World Trade Center after an air plane struck the buildings on Tuesday morning, September 11, 2001. AP Photo/ Suzane Vlamis (left), Gulnara Samoilova (right).




Cleanup and recovery efforts continue in this overall view at the site of the World Trade Center disaster. AP Photo/ Unknown (left), Louis Lanzano (right).



(Left) This general view shows the World Trade Center twin towers as construction continues on the buildings at Church Street between Vesey and Liberty Streets in lower Manhattan, New York City, on Jun 13, 1970. (Right) This photo taken by the New York City Police Department shows smoke and ash engulfing the area around the World Trade Center in New York. AP Photo/ Marty Lederhandler (left), Greg Semendinger (right).



(Left) New York's Empire State Building is illuminated at sunset in the colors of the British flag in honor of Princess Diana Thursday, Sept. 4, 1997. (Right) In a horrific sequence of destruction, terrorists crashed two planes into the World Trade Center causing the twin 110-story towers to collapse on September 11, 2001. AP Photo/ Michael Schmelling (left), Marty Lederhandler (right).



(Left) The Statue of Liberty and the New York skyline frame warships and smaller craft for Operation Sail in this helicopter view on Saturday, July 3, 1976. (Right) Thick smoke billows into the sky from the area behind the Statue of Liberty, lower left, where the World Trade Center towers stood, on Tuesday, September 11, 2001. The towers collapsed after terrorists crashed two planes into them. AP Photo/ ETA (left), Daniel Hulshizer (right).



(Left) Medical and emergency workers, who are standing in front of the Millennium Hilton, look towards where the World Trade Center towers used to be, after a terrorist attack on the twin towers of lower Manhattan. (Right) Pedestrians pass the Hilton Hotel on Church St. in lower Manhattan, Aug. 4, 2011, in New York. AP Photos/Mark Lennihan.



(Left) The World Trade Center destruction is shown in the aftermath of the September 11 attacks in New York. (Right) The tower known as Four World Trade Center is under construction in lower Manhattan, Aug. 9, 2011 in New York. AP Photos/Mark Lennihan.



(Left) Firefighters work beneath the destroyed mullions, the vertical struts which once faced the soaring outer walls of the World Trade Center towers, after a terrorist attack on the twin towers of lower Manhattan. (Right) The tower known as Four World Trade Center is under construction in lower Manhattan, Aug. 4, 2011 in New York. AP Photo/ Mark Lennihan.



(Left) People covered in dust walk over debris near the World Trade Center in New York. (Right) Pedestrians walk near the World Trade Center in lower Manhattan, Aug. 8, 2011 in New York. AP Photo/ Gulnara Samilova (left), Mark Lennihan (right).



(Left) Pedestrians flee the area of the World Trade Center as the center's south tower collapses following a terrorist attack on the New York landmark. (Right) The skyscraper known as One World Trade Center is under construction in lower Manhattan, Aug. 4, 2011 in New York. AP Photos/ Mark Lennihan.



(Left) The south tower starts to collapse as smoke billows from both buildings of the World Trade Center in New York. (Right) The skyscraper known as One World Trade Center rises in the lower Manhattan skyline, Aug. 4, 2011 in New York. AP Photo/ Jim Collins (left), Mark Lennihan (right).






 (Left) Smoke rises into the sky following the collapse of World Trade Center Towers in New York. (Right) The skyscraper known as One World Trade Center rises in lower Manhattan, Aug. 10, 2011 in New York. AP Photo/ Suzanne Plunkett (left), Mark Lennihan (right).



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