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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

How to Gain Confidence -Tips and Techniques

How to Gain Confidence

Smile and laugh

Smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous. Smile when you are introduced yourself to others. Some experts says don’t keep a smile plastered on your face because you’ll seem insincere.

Have eye contact, but don’t stare

The eyes are the mirror of the soul”, and they are. The easiest way of showing what you are feeling or to see what another is feeling is the facial expression. Our emotions can be read first from our facial expressions. Eyes can captivate an audience and express what words may not be able to deliver. A word is a word, but a word expressed upon the sincerity of the eyes will allow the words spoken to reach the minds of those they are spoken to. This is why eye contact is important.

Manage some space

Manage & create some space with others. Do not too close or too far from your concern person. Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own coat.

Relax your shoulders

Relax your shoulders when you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax.

Good attitude

Last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and will make a major difference.

Nod when they are talking

Nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don’t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker. It creates an image that you are listening to him/ her.

Lean, but not too much

If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you are full confident in yourself and relaxed lean back. But don’t lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.

Slow down your walk speed

It indicates so many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed.

Do not cross your arms or legs

You have already heard you should not cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or defended. It is also apply for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open and remain relax until the end. Cross legs and arms is a sing of uncomfortable.  The crossed-leg position is generally a supportive gesture that occurs with other negative gestures and case should be taken not to interpret this gesture in isolation or out of context. For instance when the crossed-leg gesture is combined with crossed arms the person is clearly showing displeasure with the situation or conversation.

Don’t touch your Face

It might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation. Touching face again and again is a bad thing avoid it when you are in peoples or in meeting.

Drop your negative friends

Leave your friends who have negative attitude it means you have to avoid from them do not tell them what you are going to do.

Keep you head up

Don’t keep your eyes on the ground; it might make you seem insecure. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon. Make eye contact with that person.

Don’t fidgety

Try to avoid phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table. You’ll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across. Try to relax, slow down and focus your movements.

Use your hands more confidently

Instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. Use them with some control.

Hold your drink

Don’t hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don’t hold anything in front of your heart, it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.

Realize where you spine ends

Many peoples might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore keep your whole spine straight and aligned for better posture.

Proactive Mirroring

When you get a good connection with someone, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person’s body language. To make the connection better you can try proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward. If she holds her hands on her thighs, you might do the same. But don’t react instantly and don’t mirror every change in body language. Then weirdness will ensue.

Don’t expect to be perfect

Do not try to be perfect. It means do not try to show that you know each and every thing very well. It will create a negative impact on others.

Compare yourself against yourself

Do not compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with others mean you are devaluing yourself. Compare yourself with yourself, with you power, with your strengths, and what you are? What you can do for yourself?

There is no need for you to put yourself down

Be strong, no need to put down yourself in all your decisions. Be confident this is good for me and I can make it good and most important be respected.

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